I’m Ruth. Mum of one, wife of one, part time NHS worker, baker, cat owner, and lover of all things sling!
In November 2017 my organised, ordered life changed forever. The arrival of my son, complete with reflux, turned my life upside down. My idealised vision of motherhood was a little bundle cooing contentedly in his cot, feeding on a schedule, and sleeping in the night. Reality was living with a screaming octopus who didn’t want to be put down. Change, feed, change, puke, repeat. Those first few weeks were tough. I had the feeling that nothing I did as a parent seemed to help my little one. I dreaded my husband going back to work, how on earth would I manage on my own? My family was far away, and I felt alone.
A gentle suggestion from a friend that a sling might be useful was to change our parenting journey forever. The moment that I put my screaming little boy in a stretchy wrap, he settled, and within minutes he was asleep .
Keeping him upright after feeds seem to reduce his reflux symptoms. He seemed to gain comfort just from being cuddled up close. As the days and weeks went by we all discovered so many benefits of carrying our baby. We got out and about to places we may otherwise avoid. We had free hands to be able to open doors, have drinks, and pet the cat. When Matthew was cranky, gentle swaying and singing in the sling was often enough to calm him down. We picked up on his feeding cues early, and found ourselves chatting away to Matthew as if he was part of the family… which he was! We have met many lovely families who also use slings, random conversations at the zoo and Ikea are common.
My pregnancy had been deeply affected by Antenatal depression, and I had been so worried that I would not bond with my baby. Being close to him helped so much with building our relationship. I will never underestimate the effect it had on my mental health. The connection that I felt with him was the inspiration behind the Carrying Connects name.
Realising that I wanted to help other families to discover the benefits of slings, I trained as a Peer Supporter, and then a Consultant, with Slingababy. Carrying Connects was set up in 2018, and retails a selection of slings and carriers from respected brands, as well as my skills as a Babywearing Consultant. As a Consultant I am fully insured (boring but essential), and offer both one to one consultations in your own home, and group workshops. The training I have attended enables me to help families to find the sling or carrier that suits them. I know at least a little bit about a lot of slings and carriers, and their advantages and disadvantages. I can help you to chose something new, or help you to use a sling or carrier that you already have. Safety and comfort are key for you and your child.
I have the lovely privilege of being to support families expecting a new arrival, those with newborn babies, or those with older children who they would love to carry. Above all, I am a fellow parent who remembers well what a struggle those early days can be. I don’t pretend to know everything about parenting, but I can often signpost families in the direction of other groups and support available in the local area. Slings made such a massive difference for us that I want to share the love all over the Wirral!
Want to find out if could help you? Contact me, and we can have a chat and take it from there, no obligation, and no pressure.